How to deal with an angry husband

Here are some steps to follow when it comes to handling your husband. Try to always take a calm and relaxed approach to the conflicts. It is very easy for the situation to get out of hand if you both get angry with each other.

1. Don’t be afraid. Don’t fear the anger itself.

Know that anger stems from a general lack of real power. Often, it’s because one doesn’t have control over one’s situation. It helps to look at it as a baby’s cry, rather th
an a lion’s roar

2. Reflect on your actions. Think about whether you played any role in triggering this anger. It pays to be honest with yourself here. If you did play a role in escalating the conflict, this will require an approach of taking ownership of your actions and maybe apologizing for them if the situation calls for it. However if you didn’t contribute to his anger, then your priority shifts to showing him where he misunderstood you, but not now.

3. Know that anger is a habit. Many times, a man’s anger is simply a condition—a habit triggered by the most trivial events. It’s not your fault that he has a short fuse, no matter how he may try to unintentionally (or intentionally) brainwash you into believing so. His words and actions are his own responsibilities, so never take the blame for what he does or says.

4. Don’t try to take the reins. Don’t try to control your husband’s anger.

 First things first with this, don’t focus on trying to change him, because you can’t. Only he can. All you can do is control how you react to it and what it does to you on your end. In other words, he can spit fire, but you can shield yourself from letting it burn you.

5. Anger is a form of great suffering.

When a man abuses a woman, he abuses himself too. Initially, anger makes a man feel powerful and in control, but it slowly burns and consumes him from within. Eventually, that stereotypical sense of “manliness” has a boomerang effect on the man’s physical and spiritual health and he agonizes a great deal without ever

acknowledging or letting it show. This results in a vicious cycle. If you can see it for what it is then things can seem a bit less personal and more of a lesson about the causes of human suffering.

6. Anger is a weakness.

 Despite how it is often portrayed in our culture, anger is not a strength—it is a weakness. My spiritual teacher has a saying I really like on this topic, ” Big dogs don’t bark. They don’t need to .” Strong and confident men don’t need to bark, only the insecure and fearful ones do. The real question should be—what is he hiding behind his anger?

7. Humor is your best protector.

 When you’re in a serious moment of witnessing your husband’s anger, remember that laughter is the best medicine for both you and him. Think about some things that make you laugh. Here, I’ll share with you one of my favorite jokes ever: “God created a man and said to him: ‘Listen, I gave you two wonderful organs that will give you the ability to think and benefit the world with: a brain and a penis. But I have to admit there could be a design flaw. Very likely, there will not be enough blood flow to share between them at the same time.'”

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